life update!!

Hey y’all!

Today I wanted to write to y’all about something that I have been putting a bunchhh of my time into lately…my sorority, Kappa Alpha Theta! However, first I want to put out a little “disclaimer” (if you will). As many of y’all may be aware, I rushed my freshman year of college, but ended up empty handed. This experience was a huge one for me that left me to find my worth in God rather than a sorority. As much as it sucked at the time, it was really great for me. Then, as first semester of this year rolled around, I began to wonder if I wanted to rush again. Would things go better than they had before? Would I still come up empty handed? I didn’t want to put in a ton of effort to end up in the same situation I had in the past. I also didn’t want to put myself through something so emotional a second time. Can you imagine rushing twice (and getting so wrapped up in the week and process) only to be hurt? I can’t at all. My heart hurts just thinking about it. If any of y’all have been in that situation or know someone who has, PLEASE reach out to me. Even though I have been hurt once, I sooo totally get it. Also, I recommend this post I wrote from around this time last year.

With that being said, I do want to tell y’all about my time thus far in Theta / how everything went for me this time around with recruitment. First off, I am very glad that I went through recruitment a second time. I felt so much more prepared because I knew so many more girls, not only in the sororities I thought I was interested in, but in all sororities. Just the fact that I knew that many more girls helped me go in with a much more open mind than I had my freshman year. Also, by having true friendships with the girls in sororities and not just “I know you because I want to be in your sorority” friendships, things went much better.

Now…Theta. Theta was my favorite sorority, mainly because of the girls I knew in it. Some of my best friends, Rachel and Anna (they have been featured here before), are Thetas. I felt completely comfortable every time I went in to the room and was so excited when I got my bid on bid day. However, something that I didn’t account for so much was the fact that I would have to make a lot of new friends. I kind of assumed that all would be ‘fine and dandy’ once I got my bid, but I didn’t realize that I would be doing a ton with my member class. That being said, every single girl I have met in Theta (my member class or not) have been amazing. They are true and they are kind.

Now, i’m sure you ALLLLL are curious what I’ve been up to!! (lol NOT, but lucky for you I’m gonna tell you anyways!!!)

January 8th I got my bid and went to our bid day party! The theme was “your loves got me thinking so theta right now”. Major s/o to Queen Bey!

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that night we went rollerblading/skating (?), tbh i don’t know the difference.img_2129

then the next day, school started. everything was fast and furious with school, theta, church, and every little thing. then, February 4th (lol literally almost a month later) we had big/little reveal and our 90s themed new member dance! img_2598my fam..the largest in baylor theta!!!img_2617

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then, this past weekend we had initiation (officially official, woohoo) and our initiation banquet! My momma came in town for the banquet. here are some super fun pics!!img_2662

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momma jen!!

and yeah, that’s about it. Theta has been super duper fun (highly recommend) but on a serious note, I do think it is important to know that your worth doesn’t come from your letters, but from the Big Man Upstairs. I completely relied on Him during recruitment (I literally recited Jeremiah 29:11 over and over and over in line for the rooms). I am happy, but even happier knowing that I am His and that He cares for me in all circumstances.

Thanks so much for reading y’all! Hope you enjoyed my thoughts / a peek into my life lately.

Xo,

Em

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  -Jeremiah 29:11

An Open Letter To My Freshman Year of College

Hey y’all!

In the spirit of blogging more, I was just looking back at my old drafts and found this one, “An Open Letter to My Freshman Year of College”. I had completely forgotten about this, but thought it was a fun topic nonetheless! Reading what I had put in this draft reminded me how amazing my freshman year was. I’m not going to lie, it was extremely terrifying at times, but it was so much fun! My friends and I often reflect on how much we miss freshman year! Does that make us sound lame? Probably. We mainly miss the convenience of it… Or maybe that’s just me. I miss not having to cook for myself, not having as big of a space to clean, living down the hall from all my friends, and the newness of it all. That being said, if you are currently a freshman or will be soon, relish in it!! 🙂

Freshman year, thank you for….

…teaching me to live with other people

this one goes out to you (@joan). I remember being so nervous to live with someone else going into college. I had never shared a room in my entire life, so I had no clue how it was all going to go. Maybe I’m being nostalgic but I really kinda miss that shoebox I used to live in (but tbh an apartment is sooo much better). So, thank you, Joan, for being a great roommate and for teaching me what it’s like to live with someone else. I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way 😉 #1126forlife

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…making me independent

currently, I often look at the freshmen on campus and can’t believe that was me only last year! they look like such babies!! This alone has really made me realize how much I grew as a person in that one year. Personally, I think being so far away from home has made it easier for me to grow. As much as I sometimes wish I could go home like *that*, I think I’ve learned a lot more about myself just by being away from home. I remember last year I had no clue how I was going to get to the airport, get through security, etc all on my own the very first time I went home, but now I look forward to it because it’s kinda fun to adult* (*sometimes) (wow I sound like honestly the most boring person in the entire world).

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…teaching me to believe in myself

cheesyyyyy but true. Freshman year (and college in general) taught me to believe in myself. No matter if this was going to see a teacher over a test grade because I thought I deserved better (#girlboss) or sticking to my morals, I learned to believe in my self over the the course of freshman year and am still continuing to, to this day.

img_9150but maybe don’t believe in yourself when you think you can go to Katie’s a lot, not workout, and not gain the freshmen 15!! #protip

…for making me stronger in my faith

I could not be happier with the fact that I found a church so early in my college career. My church has led me to (and is still leading me to) finding some of the most encouraging and amazing people. One of my favorite things about freshman year was the life group I was in. We met weekly and discussed how hard adjusting to school can be and God’s plans for each of us. I cannot recommend a) finding a church or b) finding the people you can confide in enough. (a little side note: one of my best friends and I are currently teaching Sunday School at our church and I wish we had done this sooner, playing with kids each week is one of the best stress relievers around!)

…for the friendships i’ve made

I’ve been blessed big in the friendship department here at Baylor (everything’s bigger in Texas, right?). My friendships are probably one of the most tangible things I have here at Baylor and I couldn’t be more thankful. My friends are encouraging, thoughtful, loving, fun and every other positive adjective anyone could ever come up with. i love them a lot and am very thankful freshman year Emma found them :).

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xo,

Em

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Girl Power.

Hey y’all!

Long time no talk (but actually)! No, this is not a blog post about Hilary, it is instead a blog post about inspiration! Here’s the deal, I’ve been wanting to blog extremely badly, (literally since my Life Update on May 26th), and have really been praying about it in the recent month or so, but have had zero content. Literally zero. I couldn’t even tell you how many blog posts I’ve began only to not finish them and feel defeated. BUT, I’m finally inspired!!

Yesterday, I went to a Q & A Discussion that the Baylor Communication department put on with Emily Landers. Emily is a 2013 Baylor Comm grad and since her graduation she has 1) interned for Foot Locker corporate in New York (!!) 2) worked for Foot Locker corporate in New York and 3) began and is the CEO of her own start-up social media company, “Flight”. This is all in under four years! Wow. If that doesn’t both terrify you and inspire you then I’m not quite sure what does. Emily was continually harping on how networking helped her right out of college. Her advice to the audience (and now my advice to you, boy or girl) is to start networking NOW! I realize that there are a variety of ages that may be reading this blog, but by reaching out NOW and creating connections NOW you will be fostering relationships that you can then call on later down the road (aka once you’re on the job hunt)!

Another thing Emily discussed was to realize your passions now. By realizing your passions now, you are able to hone in on these so you can be more successful later on. For example, one day when Emily was in college she found a woman on instagram. This woman’s profile was filled with photos from hotels all over the world. Emily thought this lady must have a cool life (because why wouldn’t she if she was constantly at luxury hotels all over the world?). Two years down the road, Emily had an assignment for her interviewing class. The assignment was to interview someone in a position you would like to be in someday. Emily commented on this woman’s instagram asking to interview her. The woman agreed and two years after the interview, she hired Emily to work for her! This means that four years after Emily followed this random woman she ended up working for her! What are your interests? What do you want to be doing down the road? I know that I personally am interested in events and fashion and ultimately want to have a semi flexible job where I’m not in the same office day after day. Emily made me realize that by knowing these things now, I can shape my future!

Emily also brought up the power of interviewing people and the confidence that comes from that. Why wouldn’t you interview someone, now, in the job you want once you’re out of school? Find out how they got there! Find out the steps you need to take to attain a position like they have! Emily said her go-to when interviewing people is “John Maxwell’s 7 Questions You Never Thought To Ask”. I have looked up these questions since her discussion yesterday and they are as follows:

  1. What is the greatest lesson you’ve ever learned?
  2. What are you learning now?
  3. How has failure shaped your life?
  4. Who do you know that I should know?
  5. What are you reading right now / What have you read that I should read?
  6. What have you done that I should do?
  7. How can I add value to you?

if you want to read on these questions and the thought process behind them, you can here.

Also, a little side note: on Sunday, my friend, Olivia, and I drove up to Dallas to meet one our favorite bloggers, “Lonestar Southern“. She graduated from UT a year and a half ago and is currently writing her blog as her full-time job. It was inspiring to meet someone so genuinely kind, caring, and driven.

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There is one theme I hadn’t really noticed until I’m reading back on everything now. Emily’s key is to start NOW. Don’t wait until you are a senior in college to start making relationships. Do everything you can NOW so that you can be prepared later on.

Wow. Hopefully this was semi as inspiring for y’all as it was for me. 🙂

xo,

Em

Emily’s instagram: @itsemilyland

Kate’s (Lonestar Southern) instagram: @lonestarsouthern

Life Update

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Hey y’all!

I have kind of been neglecting my blog lately which has really been bumming me out. I have been craving writing to all of y’all (and I realize there are only a few of you) but I haven’t had any clue what to write! That being said, I decided I’d give you all a little update on my life because A LOT has been changing! These changes include:

A NEW MAJOR

yeah…I’m no longer Elementary Education! I changed my major to Communication Studies mid-April and I couldn’t be more excited! I’m hoping to use my Communications major to be an event planner for larger companies (doing conventions, retreats, etc) but who knows. You can do sooo many things with communications and I’m so excited to see what this major will bring. Woop woop! I’m a little sad to say goodbye to being a teacher because I love kids so freaking much but I’m more excited for my new future and feeling much more confident.

A NEW HAIRCUT

yesterday I had a hair appointment scheduled and decided it was time. time to cut my hair!! My hair has always been relatively short but yesterday I decided to cut off 3 inches in the front and 4 in the back..I feel so light! I also got my hair thinned out and my highlights refreshed and I feel sooo happy and like I can conquer the world! it’s funny how a new haircut or something as simple as a manicure can make you feel brand new. yay!

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(I took this picture in the car to show my friends right after my haircut / eyebrow wax so ignore how red I am, but here’s what it looks like! lol)

IT’S FINALLY SUMMER

i’ve been out of school for almost three weeks now and it’s been so nice to not have any homework assignments, tests, etc holding me down…but the lack of work has ended up in me laying on the couch watching Friends and The Profit, so maybe it being summer isn’t the best thing..Oh well! It’s been nice to see my friends from home but I also miss my friends from school. It’s funny how once you’re in college you miss the people you’re not with…like at school you miss home and friends from home but at home you miss your friends from school. I’m still trying to figure out what I’ll be doing this summer, but I’m excited to figure it out.

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(so far, I visited my friend, Caroline, who goes to U of O with Callie, drove by downtown Portland at sunset (with Callie), and went on a hike with Callie and our friend Jessica–pictured above!).

NEW FAVORITE MOVIE

Pretty Woman. wow. I just watched it a solid 30 minutes ago and I’m in love. I’d never seen it, so my mom and I decided to watch it (she’s at home sick 😦 ) and I loved it! highly recommend if you’ve never seen it. Also, Julia Roberts is gorgeous already, but in Pretty Woman she is breathtaking! wow.

MY NEW WORKOUT (yes I actually enjoy working out now…what?!)

Barre3! When I was home over Spring Break my mom and I decided when I was back for the summer we would try Barre3 classes since a studio opened right near our house, and I’m hooked! We’ve only done two classes (our third was supposed to be today, but since my mom woke up sick we didn’t go (the class was at 6 am, so there was no way I was waking up at that hour to go alone)), but I love it! Barre3 is a mixture of yoga, pilates, and ballet. It’s really difficult but I’m loving it. #summerbodyinprogress

 

MY NEW FAVORITE OUTFIT PIECES

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denim dress (similar, mine is darker wash) | tassel sandals |

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kendra scott earrings (peach) | t-strap sandals (saddle leather, run half a size small)

I am thinking about doing some more outfit blog posts…My very first post was outfit related and I have been thinking about keeping that up, while still writing thought-provoking (at least they’re designed to be thought-provoking) posts in addition. Is this a good idea? Maybe? No? Okay, cool!

thanks y’all!

xo,

Em

 

A Letter to Insecure Girls

Hey y’all!

Today I wanted to write about something that has been on my heart a lot lately… insecurity.

It doesn’t take someone super smart or informed to tell you that insecurity is extremely rampant in society today. We, as girls, are constantly being told how to look and act, what is and isn’t okay to say, and how to get the boy without being too needy. We are required to filter the opinions of media, friends, families, and our own personal opinions when deciding who we want to be and what we want to deem “normal”. And honestly, it’s so dumb. I can’t even begin to express my thoughts on how ridiculous it all is. And here’s the thing…I’m not above it. I’m in the thick of it just like everyone else. There are days when I’ll look in the mirror and start nitpicking what I see, but I also have days where I like who I am and I like how God created me. Lately, I’ve been having a lot more days where I’m feeling confident than days where I’m not and here’s why… I have worth in God and so do you. That’s all that really matters! Whether you have boys chasing after you doesn’t count, nor do your instagram likes, grades, popularity, or any bit of affirmation from peers. God loves us and made us just how we are. Is that not amazing??? Jeremiah 1:5 illustrates this perfectly…

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”        {Jeremiah 1:5}

A couple of days ago I was in the car with some of my best friends driving to Austin. We were talking about high school and courts for dances (homecoming, formal, etc) and how it doesn’t matter near as much as you think it may. Yes, girls who get on court often deserve it, but it’s also a sad idea to single out a few girls when so many more deserve it. I want to say this: if you’re struggling with status, keeping up, or recognition, stop. It doesn’t matter. I know it’s so hard in the moment, but if you feel like you need to keep up with your friends then they aren’t friends. Think about it, you shouldn’t have to compete with your friends. Your friends should build you up, not down.

When I’m standing at the pearly gates before God I don’t want to reflect on my years on Earth and think about how much time I spent being insecure rather than happy. I want to use my time down here wisely. I want to reflect and think about how I used every second to its greatest potential, not about the tears I shed over insecurity.

I want to end on this– earlier today I was on one of my favorite blogs, Lonestar Southern. Kate recently posted a Q & A to her Youtube channel which was linked on her blog. One question she received was “how do you stay so confident?” Kate responded with “I’m confident because I don’t rely on affirmation from people…If you rely on people to affirm you… well they’re also the people that are going to let you down.” This could not be more true. She went on to say how she receives her confidence from the Lord and how her favorite verse is all she needs when it comes to self-assurance:

“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
    but will rejoice over you with singing.”        {Zephaniah 3:17}

be confident. be happy. look to the Lord above for affirmation.

xo,

Em

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Frequently Asked College Questions

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Hey y’all!

As I mentioned in my post “Or-e-GONE“, two of my friends (Jake and Kiara) that will be incoming college freshmen in the fall have asked me tons of questions about what they should expect next year. They inspired me to do a blog post on some frequently asked questions when it comes to college. They gave me questions they wanted answered below. I hope you enjoy!

Was it hard to make friends?

No! Everyone you meet is in the same boat- in a new place with little to no friends. In my situation, everyone was super friendly because they wanted to make friends just as badly as I did. It may be scary, but you have to be outgoing. Just by saying little things like “I like your top!” you can spark a conversation that could later be the beginning of a friendship. One thing I recommend if possible is going to a “camp” through your college over the summer before school starts. At Baylor we have Line Camp and it was an awesome way to meet people. I met two of my best friends at line camp!

What’re some red flags as far as roommates?

Honestly if something feels like a red flag or isn’t “clicking” then maybe you should abort mission, but in the end, your roommate won’t make or break your college career. My roommate and I are good friends and get along even though we don’t have everything in common!

How do you know where the parties are?

I’m not the best person to be asking because I always find out about parties secondhand, but if you’re searching for parties you’ll definitely be able to find them.

What are some activities that I should get involved in?

Anything that interests you! I’m involved in “Best Buddies” (a club for students with and without disabilities) and have a job. Between my job, school, working out, and friends I don’t have a lot of downtime, but if I did I would love to be involved in intramurals! Maybe next year 😉

What did you regret bringing to college? 

Prior to coming to school I swear I looked at every single Pinterest post about what to bring and what not to bring to school. While they did help a little, I wouldn’t say I’m thriving in college because of them. I, personally, waited to do most of my college shopping until I got to school just since I wasn’t sure what to expect out of the space in my dorm room and also because I was driving halfway across the country with the stuff I ended up buying prior to school..BUT, I do kind of sort of regret getting an iron. I don’t think I even bought it because my roommate bought some things and I bought others, and while an iron has been useful in some situations, I haven’t really needed it. I typically fold my clothes / hang them straight out of the dryer, so I rarely need to iron. Also, you’re not really wearing anything that nice at school that needs to be ironed, so… Also, you don’t need tons of sets of sheets. You can just put the same set on after each wash (I have two sets but one of them is really scratchy so I just use the soft ones! But the scratchy ones did come with my duvet set so I technically did need two sets of sheets if you’re picking up what I’m putting down).

What did you wish you brought?

Like I said, I didn’t come to school bringing much, so I don’t really have anything I wish I brought…my mom? idk. You can buy almost anything you need either in your college town or off of the internet, so I’m rarely wishing I had something I don’t. For the few occasions I forgot something at home, I’ve just asked my mom to mail it to me and I’ve been gucci.

What are the best in-room snacks?

Goldfish, fruit (i.e. apples, bananas, oranges), peanut butter crackers, popcorn, breakfast bars, granola bars. Basically any snack-y foods that don’t need constant care / that you don’t need to eat right away or else they’ll go bad. Personally, my dining hall plan includes breakfast, but I can never get my booty out of bed quick enough to make it to the dining hall prior to class, so I typically buy oatmeal cups at the store that I can have for breakfast every morning (10/10 recommend). I went through a greek yogurt phase for breakfast, highly recommend that route as well since they keep you full for a while! (Side note: if your college offers you the option to get a mini fridge and microwave- DO IT! I’m so glad my roommate and I paid to get them!)

About how many hours of studying and homework do you have to do a night?

It depends. Both semesters my classes have been somewhat stacked where I’ll have either a lot of classes MWF or a lot of classes TR (pro tip: this means tuesday / thursday…good to know so you don’t think you only have classes on tuesday…we’ve all been there) so I’ll have more homework those nights. College is a lot of reading –no one tells you that– so it honestly depends on how much homework specific teachers give out, if you have test coming up, etc. It’s nothing you can’t handle :).

Are you busy all week studying or do you have down time?

This depends too. You typically have time for the things you want to have time for! If you have a friends bday dinner coming up, then you can definitely go to that, you just may need to stay up a little later that night or prepare more in advance. College can include a lot of school, but also a lot of fun! You just need to know how to manage your time wisely.

What are the best ways to deal with being homesick? 

Cry. Seriously, just cry. It makes you feel so much better! Also talking through it with people helps! Whether these people are you family, friends from home, or friends from school, it can be extremely beneficial. First semester I went through phases of homesickness. At first all you can think about is how you know no one at school and how you miss how comfortable you were at home (friends, family, familiar town, etc) but as you make more and more friends you start to feel a lot better. Slowly, your friends become your family at school which is really nice. I still call my parents all the time just to talk, get advice, etc, but it’s nice to have a support system at school. (NOTE: don’t think you’ll have your best friends the first day of classes! I’m not trying to be harsh, just realistic. Your good friends will come with time!)

How do you deal with hard classes or professors?

It helps a lot to go to their office hours and see them to talk through how you can improve or do well in that specific class. If you show them you’re trying they’ll be impressed. Some of your professors may seem scary, but they don’t want to see you fail!! They want to see you flourish. Taking responsibility and showing that you want to do well can go a long way. (Also, pray. I’m not doing hot in Christian Heritage and I’ve seen my professor twice which is helping some, but not enough, so I’m turning to the Big Man Upstairs :)).

Do professors ever round grades?

Some do! They will usually tell you in their syllabuses so you know from the get go.

Is homework all online or physically turned in?

Some of each! Usually essays are turned in online so they can use turnitin.com but usually homework is turned in person. It depends on the class, the assignment, and the professor.

I hope y’all enjoyed this Q and A! Thanks to Keeks and Jake for submitting some questions. If any of y’all have any other questions feel free to comment below or text me! If you’d like me to do some more Q and A’s let me know!

xo,

Em

20 Things to Know Freshman Year of College

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Hey y’all!

I’ve really enjoyed writing about college recently, so I thought I’d keep up the trend with “20 things to know freshman year of college”. Here ya go! 🙂

-odds are slim you’ll meet your prince charming within the first days of classes.

-your professors WANT to help you (go see them if you have a problem!!!)

-spontaneity is okay! (i’m a planner, so it has definitely been an adjustment for me to just go with the flow. I really had to realize I don’t have to have everything planned out- spontaneity is key!)

-the college you pick won’t always make a huge difference in the long run. You’ll find friends wherever you go! (but in my case, going to a Christian college has definitely made a difference and I couldn’t be happier/imagine myself anywhere else)

-pinterest will become your best friend for room inspo

-you won’t regret the extra thirty minutes you studied

-don’t friend everyone on the class Facebook page…odds are you’ll unfriend them once you realize you’re friends with hundreds of people YOU DON’T KNOW / you recognize them across campus and know every detail about their lives but have never talked to them.

-your roomie won’t make or break your freshman year.

-you most likely won’t find your best friends the first day of school (and that’s ok!)

-odds are your freshman dorm won’t look pinterest worthy on move-in day. While your room may look depressing for a few days, you’ll get it figured out.

-it’s okay if you don’t go to the gym as much as you thought you would

-and it’s also okay if you gain a pound or two

-but, still, you should exercise. It does the body and mind a world of good.

-do hang out with your friends till 2 am when the opportunity presents itself

-but also know when you and your body need sleep

-and off of that, it’s okay to nap in chapel every so often (it’s called nap-el for a reason…sorry, chapel ryan).

-don’t waste your time getting ready for class, it’s not worth it. (or maybe I should say at baylor it isn’t worth it. the daily attire of most girls consists of big tshirts, no makeup, and nike shorts…but girls do go hard for football games, church, and events).

-you’ll be homesick, and it’ll be hard, and there will be tears, but it will also make you appreciate your family and friends SO much more and will make seeing them that much sweeter.

-it’s okay to not drink. Maybe I’m sheltered, but at Baylor underage drinking isn’t near as common as it is at other places, and personally, I love that.

-ultimately, you’re at college for school. For me, homework comes in waves. Sometimes you’ll have 56 papers due, 12 tests, and tons of homework and you’ll wanna cry and avoid all responsibility by watching netflix, but in the end it will be so worth it. 

College is going to be everything you’ve imagined AND MORE!

xo,

Em

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